我是一只快乐的猫~又是一头痴情的猪

      Material plays a more important role than spirits in love.Material to love is what water to a fish.

 
     Look over the history of human beings,matter has an important influence in the development of our society.In the ancient times,matter was very limited ,so ,the society was developing very slowly ,even stopped.With the accumulation of matter, our soceity has been developing at a high speed.And our styples of life,the idea of love included, have changed a lot.As it goes that food is what matters to people. When you are very hungry ,I give you a bread and love ,which one would you choose?At that moment ,are you still going after the romantic love and give up your precious life?If you can't support the basic need of matter for daily life,who is willing to have a life with you?

  
     Love is the cherry in a cake,dazzing and attractive,but after all,it is not the main food.Marriage is the bread,ugly but contributes to the cake, arround it.What's the  most important,matter is the foundation of all.When a boy and a girl fall in love with each other,maybe they will promise to each other that they will be together forever unless the sea is dry and the rocks is crumbling.But how many lovers finally submit in front of matter?So ,we have to believe that matter is the safeguard of love.Love ,without matter,is just the mirage and the castle in the air ,beautiful,attractive but not really.If you can't make sure your daily life,how can you make sure someone will love you.Love is  just a beautiful dream without matter to support it;love is just a boat sailing in the ocean without a target if there is no matter as a compass;love is just a fish without water if there is no matter to be the origin of water.It will lead to death in the end.

 
      You say that the passage tells us your theme.But you have made a serious mistake.The nightingale gives up her life,but the boy hasn't got the girl's favor in the end.You know,we can see that lots of university students fall in love with each other and live a happy life when they are at school.But when they graduate from school,most of them have to be apart from each other.Why?According to the data and the authoritative analysis,the reason is that from now on they have to earn a life by themselves.They have no ability to make sure thay can have a sweet marriage and a happy life at present.So,they have to leave each other for a more bright future.That is the true reason of that.This is only the simpliest tragedy.In our society,how many are more terrible than that,have you ever thought about that ? 

       Love is lofty,there are too many great love stories in the history of human beings.When you open a book or watch TV,you will see lots of subjects about love.Every day,you will find lots of news about love.But from the ancient times to now,human is vanity,maybe there is a little excessive to say so.But you have to acknowledge that human's dependence of wealth and matter has reached to a terrible situation.Without matter as the firm safeguard,it is very not realistic to pursue sweet and romantic love.In the end,you'll be a loser.Moreover,you are not sure to get a sweet love if you are very rich.But if you have nothing,your marriage will not last long.So,please don't complaint the reality,the only thing you have to do is that you must try your best to improve your material life,and then take a conside of how to get a sweet love.Because the social reality makes you have to trust the truth that love is just a beautiful ideal without matter to support it.

最近的生活过的乏味和无趣，天天四肢无力~头脑发昏，很想去给自己找点事情做，但是又舍不得现有的这份安逸。

现在的自己很奇怪，不知道要做些什么，好像没有事情想做，也没有什么能让我提起性质，我觉得我病了~相思病？抑郁症?性格分裂了？不知道~什么都不知道~什么都不清楚~反正是病了~而且不轻。

他回德国三个星期了，这三个星期我们差不多天天打电话都是吵架，我觉得很无聊。吵架的原因很简单~就是他想让我去做的事情~我不想做。我想做的事情~他不理解，他想做的事儿，我也不明白。分开短短的三个星期~问题和矛盾就全来了。这让我们都很头疼~我们都在很努力的去迎合对方的想法，都努力的在改变着自己，想让对方接受自己的地方再多一些，这样很累，但是我们都在乐此不疲的去做着这些事儿，这~又让我感到很欣慰，呵呵~是不是很矛盾呢。昨天的争吵后~我开始明白了，他希望我做的事儿，他现在忙着的一些事儿，都是为了我们的以后~将来。

我们有着太多的相似，比如脾气，都是如此的暴躁。比如我们想事情的方式，会出其不意~但又很极端~常人有时会无法接受。再比如，我们做事情的方式，都过于急躁~没有条理性~下场就是得不到我们想要的结果。还比如我们处理事情的方式，不计后果~最后把矛盾激化。

我现在有一个爱我的“老公”（因为还没有结婚~又不喜欢用男朋友那种生疏的称呼来称呼他，所以加了引号表示从男朋友到老公这中间过程的那份亲切）有一个很好家庭，让我衣食无忧的过着现在的生活。还有群朋友，在我郁闷无助，像个怨妇的时候，陪在我身边出谋划策。

我想写一本书，或是备忘录什么的，把我们的点点滴滴都记录在里面。里面有的全是我们的快乐~浪漫~甜言蜜语，把那些不快~郁闷~恶意中伤通通删掉。

现在终于明白了，他要的自由，我们曾经说过互不干涉，各自有各自的空间，可是真的在一起，到了谈婚论嫁的地步，我发现我给不了他他想的自由。当自己现在也想要那份自由的时候，才知道有多难。终于明白，他为什么喜欢许巍的《蓝莲花》---没有什么可以阻挡，我对自由的想往。其实应该是---没有什么能够阻挡，你对自由的想往。他把你改成了我，他这样的唱法经常在我耳边回响，让我有一种很不舒服的感觉，像是种讽刺，又像是一种发自内心的渴望，这样我很矛盾，我是该给他他要的自由，还是让彼此都放纵些。我不知道了~真的不知道了.

现在的我喜欢把自己放在黑夜，放在漆黑的房屋，点上蜡烛，微弱的烛光，让我感到温暖些。自己清楚，这是伪浪漫，伪温馨，伪温暖，因为没有你。

是啊~你是怎么了~我又是怎么了